Category Archives: Commentaries by Charles

Your Desire for Your Goals

No matter what your goals might be, how badly do you want them? What is your level of desire? Do you hope you can accomplish them, or do you feel like you NEED to accomplish them?

Let’s consider at an example. We all need air – right? Without air, we’re dead. As we go through our day though, we hardly ever think about air. We take it for granted. True, because we don’t think about it incessantly, we’re able to direct our focus to other things – BUT without the air, none of those other things matter – do they?

Now picture yourself on the beach, enjoying a beautiful sunset. You feel the waves splashing on your legs, as you begin to walk towards the ocean. The sea water is surprisingly warm. It’s comforting. You move further away from the beach and then suddenly realize the water is now up to your chest.

Just as you become aware of how far into the ocean you’ve wandered, a huge wave knocks you off balance. You slip under the water. The current is strong, and it pulls you further from the shore.

You begin to panic Now it’s difficult to keep your head above water. At that moment, how badly do you want that air? Do you still take it for granted when you must fight the waves to get a single breath?

This is the type of desire we need when we pursue our goals. In the example, the desire for air is always there. That need doesn’t change. The difference is when you’re under water and must fight for it, you realize how important it is.

If it were possible to feel that level of desire at all time, don’t you think you could accomplish your goals faster?

Charles Lewis goes live every weekday morning 8:30 am (CST) for the Morning Mindset Motivation: http://www.facebook.com/Vistralex


How to Respond to “No”

We’re all going to hear the word “no” more times than we’d like to. How we respond when we hear the word “no” will determine our success or failure.

In a work situation, to get a “no” will immediately set up a roadblock that if you move forward, you’ll run the risk of being labeled insubordinate.  One solution is to not even ask in the first place and implement your idea. If it works, you’ll be applauded. If it doesn’t, then apologize. Remember, it’s always easier to ask forgiveness than it is to ask permission.

In a situation where you’re looking for someone to hire you or buy your product, consider what that prospect is really saying when they tell you “no.” What they’re really doing is asking for more information. If you can supply them with new information, they could potentially make a different decision.

There are countless examples of people who have heard “no” multiple times, but persevered until they found the “yes.” The creators of the smash-hit “Breaking Bad” were told “no” but at least three different TV networks.

They may have made some modifications to their concept, but they did not abandon it completely. More than likely, their “pitch” changed and incorporated new information. In hindsight, the TV executive who gave it the green light is likely viewed as smarter and more promotable than the ones who turned it down.

So why not help someone advance their own career, by giving them the opportunity to say “yes” to your idea or project?


The Unit Within the System

We all interact and function within different systems. There is the larger societal system and several smaller sub-systems. We have national, state and local systems, as well as work, home and social systems.

Consider this idea: “The unit within the system that has the most behavioral responses to it, controls the system.”

You are the unit in any system you interact and function in. If your response to any given situation is driven by emotions and/or programed (learned) behavior, then you are controlled by that system.

On the other hand, if you have multiple responses available to you and are able to choose the most appropriate one, you (the unit) will control that system.

The question then becomes how can we learn different responses?

The first step is to become aware of our programmed response. When we understand that our programmed response does not serve us, then we become ready to look for alternatives.

Most times, we’ll find those alternatives from modeling the behavior of others. For example, if John did not get upset and quit his job when confronted with a similar situation as I face, how did John think about that situation so that his response did not put his financial security at risk?

If I could study John and begin to understand how John interacts and functions in the system, then I might be able to learn an alternative response.

Once I learn that alternative response, I would then have a choice when confronted with the situation and begin to move towards controlling the system.


Learning to Embrace Change & Growth

From the moment we’re born to the moment we die, we are constantly evolving, changing and growing. Change and growth are both natural. We can’t escape them. They’re always present. In fact, they are probably the only constant in this life.

Even though we might understand this on an intellectual level, change is also the one thing we tend to resist the most. What’s most surprising – the biggest changes are the ones we usually have the least resistance to. It’s the small things, the little changes, we tend to resist the most.

Why is that?

If it were possible to change how we think about change and growth, we might be able to get to where we’re going faster.

One thought we should consider – what is it that we can do today to begin the process of becoming more comfortable with change? How can we embrace it? Even want it or expect it?

The fact is, if we don’t change – we will be left behind.

Charles Lewis goes live every morning 8:30 am (CST) for the Morning Mindset Motivation: http://www.facebook.com/Vistralex


Get a Clear Vision of What You Want

The most important thing we must do, to ensure our success and to ensure that we get rich, is to have a clear picture of what we want. If we don’t know what we want or the picture of what we want is vague or uncertain, we run the risk of being influenced by others who may not be looking out for our best interests.

Charles Lewis goes live every morning 8:30 am (CST) for the Morning Mindset Motivation: http://www.facebook.com/Vistralex


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Your Perception of the Truth

There are really only two things in this world, truth and your perception of the truth. Everything you’ve ever been taught about what is true or right/wrong was clouded by someone else’s personal agenda.

What is true is often different than what we want to be true or what we think should be true. It’s not until we’re willing to let go of what we want to be true that we can begin to see what is actually true.


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Failure Doesn’t Just Happen to You: It’s Something You Accomplish

Ask people why they have been successful. Their answers will be filled with personal pronouns: I, me, and sometimes an occasional we.

Ask them why they failed and most will revert to childhood and try to distance themselves. Like the kid who says, “My toy got broken…” instead of, “I broke my toy.”

They’ll say the economy tanked or the market wasn’t ready or their suppliers couldn’t keep up. They’ll say it was someone or something else. When distancing yourself, you can’t learn from your failures.

Occasionally something completely outside your control caused you to fail, but most of the time, it’s you. And that’s okay.

Every successful person has failed. Numerous times. Most have failed a lot more often than you. That’s why they’re successful now!

Embrace every failure. Own it, learn from it and take full responsibility to ensure that next time, things will turn out differently.


The Boiling Point

If you heat water to 211 degrees it will be very, very hot. If you go just a little bit further and get the temperature to 212 degrees, something happens. The water begins to boil.

Are you willing to go that little bit more? You’ve come this far. You’ve worked so hard. Everything screams that you’ve already given it your all. You’re tired. You’ve worked so hard, but it’s not enough.

Can you reach deep inside and find the strength for another attempt? One more try and you might finally get it. Are you going to finish this or what?

Can you push it just one degree to reach the boiling point?